The Friends of Distinction

Love or Let Me Be Lonely

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"Love or Let Me Be Lonely" -- or as it's more commonly known, "The one that isn't 'Grazing in the Grass'" -- was the Friends of Distinction's second big hit, and in many ways, it's the equal of their better-known smash. This 1970 single is a prime example of post-Fifth Dimension adult contemporary soul-pop; Perry Botkin Jr.'s arrangement recalls his work for Harpers Bizarre in its Wonder Bread strings and the peppy little horn blasts that goose along the chorus, and the overall feel is way more Live at Caesar's Palace than Showtime at the Apollo. That's not a bad thing, necessarily, and the four singers -- especially Barbara Jean Love and Jessica Greaves -- deliver the tune so intently that one can't merely dismiss this as chart-oriented hack work. These singers are 100 percent into this poppy little tune (the double-speed chorus alone clearly required some major rehearsal time), and by the end of the song, so are all but the most cynical or hardened listeners. Be warned that the Friends of Distinction -- or at least some group of singers calling themselves that -- re-recorded this song at some point in the '80s, an inferior take that turns up on some of the less scrupulous budget-priced compilations. Remember, you get what you pay for.

Appears On

Year Artist/Album Label Time AllMusic Rating
Golden Classics 1989 Collectables 3:19
Nipper's Greatest Hits: The 70's 1990
Various Artists
RCA 3:20
Soul Hits of the 70s: Didn't It Blow Your Mind!, Vol. 2 1991
Various Artists
Rhino 3:14
'70s Smash Hits, Vol. 1 1993
Various Artists
Rhino 3:12
Heartbreakers, Vol. 3: True Love 1993
Various Artists
Dominion / K-Tel Distribution 3:05
Super 70s, Vol. 1 1993
Various Artists
Dominion / K-Tel Distribution 3:08
Soul Hits of the 70s: Didn't It Blow Your Mind! Vols. 1-5 1995
Various Artists
Rhino 3:14
Rock On 1970: In the Summertime 1996
Various Artists
Rock On 3:20
The Best of the Friends of Distinction 1996 RCA 3:23
70's Rock [Madacy 1997] 1997
Various Artists
Madacy Distribution / Madacy 3:05
Soul Collection [Madacy #1] 1997
Various Artists
Madacy 3:05
Classic 70s Soul, Vol. 1 [BMG] 1997
Various Artists
BMG Special Products 0:00
Love Songs of the 70's [Madacy] 1997
Various Artists
Madacy Distribution / Madacy 3:08
Music That Changed Our Lives: 70's 1997
Various Artists
Madacy 3:09
Music That Changes Our Lives: 50's 60's 70's 1997
Various Artists
Madacy Distribution / Madacy 3:09
Love Songs of the 60's, 70's and 80's 1998
Various Artists
Columbia River Entertainment Group 3:21
Love Songs [Columbia River] 1999
Various Artists
Columbia River Entertainment Group 3:21
Rock N' Roll Hits of the 70's: Great Groups of the 70's 1999
Various Artists
Madacy 3:07
Rock N' Roll Hits of the 70's 2000
Various Artists
Madacy Distribution / Madacy 3:07
Love Ballads to Remember 2001
Various Artists
Columbia River Entertainment Group / BMG Special Products 3:21
Can You Dig It? The '70s Soul Experience 2001
Various Artists
Rhino 3:14
Love Affairs of the Seventies [K-Tel #1] 2003
Various Artists
K-Tel Distribution 3:04
Old School Soul Party 2005
Various Artists
Shout! Factory / TJL 3:20
Classic Soul: Motown Legends, Vol. 4-5/100% Motown 2005
Various Artists
Columbia River Entertainment Group 4:20
Soul of the '60s
Various Artists
Time Life 3:20
The Greatest Love Songs of the '70s
Various Artists
Time Life 3:20